Yeah yeah, everyone has advice for you…they still will even 2 months after your wedding. It is rather annoying, but some of it is helpful…
Here are a few simple things that I did before and after my wedding that I think were reasonable and smart
- Get your documents in order before the wedding
- This for us was a pre-nup (which included selling the house upon separation), health care proxy, and a will. These documents will be incredibly helpful if any of these bad things happen since they were created in a space that we were happy with each other and had clear minds.
- Do not register for crap just because your mom says
- My mother pushed me to add stuff to my registries because “people want to buy you stuff.” Yeah, they do…but most people gave us money and we had to return 4 sets of pint glasses to the store because they didn’t get knocked off the list. I was told it was tacky, but seriously think about registering for your honeymoon or for experiences more.
- Put someone in your wedding party who is there solely because you love them, not because you are obligated (family, they had you in their wedding, etc) to put in there.
- My sisters both pissed me off that day. One of my bridesmaids, though, knew that I was pissed off and was able to make me laugh because she is my best friend and that is what they do.
- Saving for something? Put all that money you get into a separate account
- We have ours in a town 30 miles away so we actually have to get up and drive to go get it. You will get a lot of money…don’t blow it on the first thing that pops into your head.
- Not changing your name? Tell your DJ every chance you get
- I swear we told the DJ that I wasn’t changing my name. It is a slant rhyme and I wanted to keep mine rather than going through the hassle of changing everything and losing a bit of myself. HOWEVER, the DJ kept introducing us as Mr. and Mrs…there are a lot of amusing photos of us laughing hysterically about that.
- Most importantly, breathe!
- There were moments when I cried or got into a fight with anyone and everyone, but it was worth it. Just keep breathing.